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2 January 2014

The thing about love

Iedereen heeft het er altijd over, klaagt erover. Is er tevreden over, is niet tevreden. Maar niemand weet het grote geheim van de superrelatie. Waarom is liefde zo moeilijk te begrijpen? Als ik heel eerlijk ben weet ik daar ook geen antwoorden op, maar ik heb wel iets anders geleerd. Ik heb geleerd hoe ik tevreden kan zijn met de liefde die ik krijg. Ik denk dat voor een deel het te maken heeft met dankbaarheid die je kunt opbrengen, maar dat zal lang niet alles zijn.

Ik denk dat het grote geheim is dat je van iemand moet houden met alles dat je hebt. Dat is het, niets meer niets minder. ALLES. Maar iedereens alles is verschillend. En daar is het grote probleem dat alles ingewikkelder maakt. We verwachten dat mensen ons liefde geven op precies dezelfde manier als dat wij hen ook geven. Want anders is het geen liefde of is het niet alles geven. Maar dat klinkt toch echt belachelijk?! Iedereen uit liefde op een andere manier. Net als dat iedereen leuke dingen doen anders ziet; voor de een is winkelen de beste bezigheid op aarde en voor de ander is winkelen de grootste hel die er bestaat, you get it?

Maar goed, alles wat je hebt. Liefde kunnen kleine dingen zijn zoals een kopje koffie zetten 's ochtends, maar ook grote dingen als een villa op Saint Tropez. Misschien is de villa niet mogelijk en brengt hij je ontbijt op bed, maar wil dat dan zeggen dat hij je niet alles geeft wat hij heeft? Nee. De essentie van deze hele mooie theorie is dat liefde niet voor iedereen hetzelfde is of hetzelfde uit. En je daarom dus ook niet boos kunt worden op de ander of niet tevreden kunt zijn met wat je krijgt.

De moreel van de theorie is dus dat je leert om tevreden te zijn met wat je kijgt van de ander, want wat voor jou alles is, is voor de ander misschien onmogelijk om jou te geven. Denk wel tevreden zijn en niet accepteren. Want accepteren is er mee leven maar niet tevreden zijn. Terwijl tevreden zijn is ermee leven en er ook tevreden mee zijn. Simple as that. Alleen omdat iedereen het anders uit betekent niet dat zij je niet alles geven wat ze hebben.

11 September 2013

The key to happiness

De sleutel tot gelukkig zijn is keuzes maken, de goede keuzes. Ik zal je nu al zeggen, als jij gelukkig wilt zijn, moet je voor jezelf gaan. Je moet kiezen voor jezelf. Waarschijnlijk zullen veel mensen nu van mij zeggen dat ik een ongelooflijke egoïstische bitch ben, maar eigenlijk maakt me dat helemaal niks uit, want ik heb wel geleerd, dat ik voor mezelf moet kiezen.

In deze maatschappij wordt het misschien beschouwd als iets dat absoluut niet kan, in vele culturen is het enorm belangrijk om het geluk van anderen voorop te zetten en voor anderen te kiezen. In China moet je bijvoorbeeld altijd zorgen voor je ouders als zij later te oud zijn om dat voor zichzelf te doen. Ik snap dat wel hoor, echt wel. Het is natuurlijk fijn als je anderen gelukkig maakt door hen te helpen. Maar weet je wat het is, je kunt anderen wel blijven helpen en verantwoordelijkheid voor hen nemen, maar uiteindelijk word je daar ontzettend moe van

16 February 2013

Just a thought

Lately I have been watching the new MTV series Catfish. I'ts about people who fall in love online. People who meet the love of their life on the internet. Unfortunately people lie on the internet. So when Nev, the man who made the film Catfish and turned it into a tv show, helps -mostly girls- to find the truth about the person they have fallen in love with, he finds loads of doubtful things. The first episode is about Sunny who is in love with Jamison. Jamison is a 20-something handsome guy and has been in a relationship with Sunny for over 8 months. When Nev finally convinced Jamison to meet in real life with Sunny, Sunny and Nev are both shocked. It turned out that Jamison isn't a 20-something handsome guy, it's a 18year old girl named, Chelsea. So this is where my thought comes from. How can you fake a relationship for eight months and not feel any emotions? How can you fake a relationship without being emotionally involved in it for eight months? I do get that people lie on the internet and people can fake a lot. But after all, when you talk with a person a lot, you do build a band together right? And if you see you have hurt somebody, just out of revenge, how can you not feel sorry or any other emotion? I just don't get it. I know that you can fake a lot of things, that you can fake a relationship over the internet, quite easy as I see now. But a relationship for eight months without getting emotionally involved? Maybe it's just me who doesn't get it. Maybe I'm too naive and too dreamy to get those kind of things..

I just want love to be something pretty.

18 January 2012

Stay hungry, stay foolish

Today during English class we watched a speech, given by Steve Jobs at Stanford University. And again, it inspired me. He was telling the students three stories of his life.

The first one was about connecting dots. the dots which reflect your life, he said that: ''You can't connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. You have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart. Even in it leads you off the well worn path, and that will make all the difference.''

And he's so right. You may not know what is going to happen in the future, you may not know why you are doing something unimportant now, but it is important that you do it. And you will see in the future that it wasn't for nothing. Every single thing in life happens for a reason, when you connect all the dots at the end of your life, you have your story about your life.

The second story was about love and loss, he told the people about his work at Apple, but the moral of his story was that should never lose faith, he said: ''Sometimes life hits you in the head with a brick but don't lose faith. The only thing that keeps you going is that you love what you do. You've got to find what you love.That is as true for your work as it is for your lovers. Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart , you'll know when you find it.

I think it's true, if you don't do what you love, you will never be truly satisfied with your life. Don't be afraid of failure, if you believe in what you do is great work and if you love what you do, you found one of the best things in life that keeps you happy the rest of your life.

His last story was about death, he said he read years ago a quote about death, it made him think about life and death and eventually it helped him to make big choices in life. 'If you live each day as if it was your last, someday you'll almost certainly be right.' He told them: ''Almost everything all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure, these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you were going to die is the best way to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.'' ''Death is the destination we all share. Death is very likely the single best invention of life. It clears out the old to make way for the new. Right now the new is you, but someday not too long from now, you will gradually will become the old and be cleared away.'' ''Your time is limited , so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.''

His last story inspired me most I think, death is a scary subject to talk about, but it's the only thing we all share being humans. You always see quotes and lyrics with the message that you should live your life like you're dying, they're not for nothing. Because your last day can be anytime, if you don't do foolish things now, you will regret it later. Life's too short to regret anything, so take chances, do what you love, follow your heart and live the life you want to live.

17 January 2012

The thing about creativity

Today at school during English class we watched a show about the connection between creativity and school as a preparation for our listening comprehension test next week. Some parts were funny, but above all, I think it was inspiring. He had some quotes which I think were very interesting to think about. He gives examples which will explain his point. He was trying to say that creativity isn't a gift, everyone's gifted with creativity.

''The thing about creativity is that you're prepared to take chances, you shouldn't be frightened of being wrong. Not that being creative is the same as being wrong but we do know that if you're not prepared to be wrong, you'll never come up with anything original. Now, the thing is, nowadays education teaches us that we can't make mistakes, cause mistakes are the worst thing we can make. The result is that we are educating people out of their creative capacities.''

I must admit, I think he's right. People are afraid of being wrong or being different; to stand out. We shouldn't be afraid to be judged. Why is this? If someone has different ideas than you have, it doesn't mean his ideas are wrong. Please don't let anything stand in your way during life. Do what you like, say what you think; Always speak your mind. Don't be afraid of being wrong, take chances, be original and, above all, be yourself.